We, Not Me
Leadership has a way of revealing what's really in our hearts.
Years ago, early in my executive leadership career, our company had acquired several businesses, and every day felt like we were putting out fires. My team and I were working tirelessly to solve problems and keep everything moving.
During a conversation with our CEO, I walked him through everything that was happening.
"I did this." "I handled that." "I fixed this issue."
I wasn't trying to take credit. I honestly didn't realize how often I was saying "I."
Then he stopped me.
He looked at me and asked, "Where's your team in this story?"
That question hit me harder than any criticism ever could.
He went on to explain that he had once lost a great team because, over time, everything became about "I" instead of "we."
That conversation changed the way I lead.
Real leadership isn't about collecting recognition. It's about giving it away. It's about celebrating the people who stand beside you in the fight.
Jesus modeled this perfectly. Though He had every right to seek recognition, He chose humility. He invested in others, lifted them up, and ultimately gave His life for them.
If we're going to become the men God has called us to be, we have to learn the same lesson.
The strongest leaders don't build platforms. They build people.
Who has been standing beside you in the fight that deserves your gratitude? Don't just think about them. Tell them.
Father, guard my heart against pride. Teach me to lead with humility and to recognize the people You've placed beside me. Help me become the kind of man who builds others instead of building myself. May my leadership point people to You rather than to me. Amen.
Before the day is over, publicly thank someone who has helped you succeed. Give them the credit they deserve.
Keep walking through the fire
Forged by Fire is a book about the cost of isolation and the power of brotherhood. If this hit something, the book goes further.